The Space Between

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Monthly Archives: March 2019

Self love and all that.

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Lately I’ve been recognizing the importance of self love and self care. I’m realizing that although those two things go hand in hand, they are far from the same thing. I’m also realizing lately how important it is to have someone on your side, supporting you and encouraging you to practice self care. My husband is a rockstar. Seriously. An absolute rockstar. He steps up daily and helps in anyway he can. Lately he’s been encouraging me to take time for myself and leave him with our four, yes FOUR, kids. I almost always offer to take one kiddo with me but he always tells me no and that I need time to myself. He has been fully on board with me getting my nails done regularly because if my nails are done, I feel complete. He encouraged me to find a babysitter once a week so I can have a day to myself. And let me tell you, hiring a sitter for four kids isn’t exactly cheap. He’s been fully supportive of it all. I have had to completely let go of the guilt I’m feeling because I really feel like a better mom when I have a break. I have longed to be a stay at home mom since we first had kids and because of my husband, that has been a possibility for me for the last year. I am so thankful that I have this opportunity and I’m so thankful my husband works so hard to make it happen.

I have really been working on dropping the guilt associated with leaving my kids. I’m a mom. It’s my job to be there and raise them everyday. This is why we decided for me to stay home. Why should I get a break? |Disclaimer: This is not a working mom shame post. I was a working mom for 2.5 years. I get it. I’m not in anyway shaming moms who leave their kiddos with someone to provide for their families. This is about me and my own personal issues and guilt so please hear that, first and foremost. I have so much respect for working moms. I sometimes feel guilty about that and wonder if my family would be better off if I did work so please, please, hear that above anything else.| I sometimes wonder if people will judge me for needing a one day a week break from my kids. But I’ve worked really hard to drop that feeling because what people think about me is none of my business.

The past few weeks I’ve worked really hard on developing self love and good self care habits. It’s so hard. It’s hard to look in the mirror and see my giant bags and tired eyes. It’s hard to put myself first some days when I have so many other things and people pulling me in different directions. I have felt extremely spread thin most days. However, I have to remember that those giant bags were up late with a baby and the tired eyes will get rest again some day and I’ll long for these days again. So for now, I’ll embrace it. I’ll embrace the mess and the chaos. I’ll embrace the dry shampooed hair and yesterday’s clothes. I’ll embrace the crumbs on the floor and the van that will never be clean again. img_8094.jpg

“Self care can be as simple as taking 10 minutes a day to read a book or enjoy your coffee while it’s still hot. Self love can be as simple as telling yourself you are worthy everyday.”

I’ll embrace it and remember that this momma bear gets up and fights for her kids daily. This momma loves herself and the woman God made her. She will love her husband and her kids but also work on taking care of herself so she’s not trying to pour from an empty cup. She will praise the Lord daily and thank Him for all the incredible things He’s provided in this life. Self love is pushing yourself everyday to be better than you were yesterday but also understanding it’s okay to make mistakes. Self care can be as simple as taking 10 minutes a day to read a book or enjoy your coffee while it’s still hot. Self love can be as simple as telling yourself you are worthy everyday. It doesn’t have to be fancy, it just has to be intentional. I urge you to talk to your support system if you’re struggling with this. And if you don’t have a support system, find one. It’s vital for your well being, sweet momma! And always remember, you are incredible and so worthy of self care and self love.